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Stop Hating
Start Loving
I greet you on the eve of the New Year. The year that is coming to an end had many ugly scars on its face. Let
us hope and pray that the new year will be free from such ugly burns and sores.
This is the last lecture of the year. Let us pray in all solemnity that the new year may bring in its wake
happiness and joy.
People want shelter. They want safety and security, which are the requisites of better living. Better living
depends to a great degree on moral and spiritual development.
So long as a person is burning himself in the fire which he has himself kindled, he cannot enjoy the bliss of
peace and tranquillity.
The fire of malice, envy, and hatred, once it engulfs a person, does not allow him to fulfill the legitimate
demands of better living.
Regionalism and casteism pose a threat to the harmonious working of society. Communalism and racism
divide mankind. Fanaticism is alien to toleration. It is the negation of social justice.
Let people come close to each other. Let there be mutual understanding and good will.
Everybody is capable of giving something to others. Let them then at least give a smile, signifying their
greetings and their good wishes.
Why should people hate instead of loving. The strife and differences between people professing different
religions and creeds, and belonging to different races and regions, land people in misery and abject living.
Hatred may be due to rancour or malice or both. Rancour and malice lead to hatred. Hatred, in some cases,
may be due to a superiority complex. It may also be due in some cases to jealousy and envy.
Grave social inequality leads to class struggle, resulting in hatred. Mutual strife and hatred may also be due
to poverty. It may also be due to lack of equal opportunities.
Sometimes communal and and caste differences are exploited leading to mutual hatred, violence, and riots.
Feudal attitudes and illiteracy divide people on a scale and in a way that makes people begin to hate,
resulting in the fragmentation of society.
Political parties pursue their own ideology, which may isolate and divide people. Sometimes their
ill-conceived policy leads to mutual strife and and mutual hatred.
Sometimes it so happens that a tense situation is not properly controlled. The unscrupulous manipulation of
the situation casts grave doubts on the sincerity of those dealing with the situation.
Fanaticism and orthodoxy survive as an age old division.
Casteism, communalism, racism and regionalism lead to disunity in diversity.
What is urgently required is that we revive and change our attitude towards the day to day problems
challenging our society. Unity is an imperative necessity for the survival, progress and prosperity for any
multi-religious, multiracial and multi-lingual country.
A judicious political management is called for. Social management to tackle the emerging problems is
required.
Compromise and conciliation are signs of mature wisdom and of mutual understanding, mutual trust, and
mutual good will.
Instead of hating, it is better to ignore the person who is the target of one's hate.
Do not punish yourself by being engaged in hating. Never speak of a person whom you don't like.
Hatred is meanness of heart.
Hatred is active dislike.
Envy is passive dislike.
Malice robs our mind of peace.
Hatred makes us uneasy.
Envy leads to hate.
Malice shouts and hatred shows signs of restlessness.
Hatred is a vice which afflicts narrow souls.
Hatred is a slow poison.
It is not the mark of a gentleman to hate anyone, whomsoever he may be. Vices must be disliked, but the
person should not be hated on that account. Instead of hating the person, the injustice should be disapproved
of.
Intolerance, cruelty, oppression, pride, vanity, the show of force, extravagance, ostentation, show, and vices
like drinking, gambling, and the use of intoxicating drugs should be condemned.
As opposed to hatred love is a cementing force. It unites people. The spirit of love should be cultivated. Love
like spiritual attainments should be developed. Love demands that we should pray for all irrespective of caste
affiliation, colour, community, race, region and religion.
Love is a fellowship - in prosperity and adversity. Love points out what is good beautiful and sublime.
In order to love try to understand the people. It is good to believe the best.
Human dignity demands due respect and veneration.
Instead of hating, we must try to understand people. We must pay due attention to the problems of people.
We must study their view point. We should try to know their background. We should try to find out whether a
person is under some pressure, or whether he is under fear and is afraid of expressing himself.
Let us also try to find out factors in the environment which may have moulded their outlook. The study of the
person's home background may reveal their past. Their parentage may disclose their family traditions, likes
and dislikes.
In order to love a person we should not judge them, but we should be sympathetic to that person, sharing his
joys and sorrows and trying to solve his problems and difficulties by giving him advice, suggestion and
spiritual, moral and financial help if need be.
Personal interest in the life of someone creates love. Helping a person to achieve what they want to achieve,
creates mutual love. A word of hope and encouragement sometimes serves as a ray of sunshine in the life of
that person. who is depressed and despondent.
As we need love, affection, and attention, likewise we should give love to others. We should not be self
centered, egoistic, and selfish, but altruistic, helping and loving.
People do not like to be criticised. Then why criticise them? Whatever you wish for yourself, give the same to
others. Give something to others if you can. Do not try to get but also try to give. If you get then give. if you
give then you get. There is a reciprocal law operating.
To make fun of people is to hurt their sentiments. It alienates people. A joke need not be enjoyed at the
expense of others.
To take a superior attitude is to assume superiority complex. It hinders the overflow of love.
Do not belittle the importance of others.
Sarcastic remarks lead to disunity.
Joking, laughing and making fun of people leads to confrontation instead of cooperation.
Negative criticism leads nowhere. Constructive criticism based on love yields positive results.
Sometimes it so happens that success in life without love makes a person lose the balance of their mind.
They become critical, arrogant and proud.
Love has inherent power. When a person comes to realise love in his heart, his whole life pattern is changed.
He is not the same man again. What is required is a personal revolution. Inner revolution changes a man to
the extent that nothing else can. There should be a complete revolution in our daily life, and in our approach to
life and its problems. Our worship, our prayer and our thanksgiving should evoke the sentiment of love.
Connotation should be replaced by devotion. Our devotion and our submission should make us self
disciplined.
Spiritual honesty is the need of the hour. An unceasing war should be declared on spiritual self deception.
Any semblance of unreality, confusion and frustration should be totally effaced and erased. Let us then
declare war on spiritual poverty.*
Let us avoid self deception. Let us shun self conceit. Let us make no compromise with arrogance.
If you do not like a man, do not hate him. Instead of hating him the best way is to have nothing to do with him.
If you cannot forgive then at least forget. Forget the injustice done to you. But remember the favour conferred
on you.
Man has a complex nature. he exhibits different moods at different times. He loves, he hates and he has his
own likes and dislikes.
Man is given reason but sometimes he is guided and led by impulse and emotions, resulting in ignoble
actions.
Love constitutes the greatest pleasure of life.
if you love someone purely, warmly, sincerely, and diligently and with all your heart then your love will expand
and you will begin to love all irrespective of their caste or colour.
What we love determines our life's parameters. We are thus shaped moulded and fashioned.
Why believe in love at first sight? Let us believe in taking a second look.
If you are in search of happiness, then live well and love all.
Love is gift and true love is a gift of abiding value.
Love does not argue. It gives in abundance. love is total abandonment. it is neither self possessed or prudent.
recently I had a very bad cough. I could not hide it from others. Likewise love cannot remain hidden. Love is
like a perfume. the smell of the perfume cannot be hidden. The same applies to the smell of love.
Love leads to the purification of the heart.
Hated makes the heart unrefined.
Love makes a person noble, daring and courageous.
love makes a distant object appear nearer and larger.
The technique of love is seeing through a telescope.
Hatred magnifies objects revealing details invisible to the naked eye. Its way of seeing is
through a microscope.
Envy looks through the eye glass.
The heart of one who has love within is a paradise on earth.
Let us rise above the petty squabbles, ignoble feuds, and quarrels. Let us take a wide view of the world at
large. Let us build brick by brick a society that is free from confrontation and hatred. Its guiding spirit is
humanism, altruism and empathy.
We cannot survive if we live to hate and disown love.
Regional forces, communal passions, and class and caste distinctions lead to social discontent, caused by
the lopsided development of personality.
In order to save the world from impending catastrophe, it is urgently required that people should rise above
invidious distinctions of caste, creed, and colour and work like a team to save and serve the depressed, the
despondent, and the down-trodden.
The issue of social justice should be taken up. An unequivocal stand should be taken for the good of all.
The love wave should serve as a channel or medium to start the process of uniting people, as has been done
by the mystics and Sufis. According to them bad thought is worse than bad action.
Some necessary institutional changes should be made in the structure of society:-
this calls for harmony, catholicity, righteousness, respect for the dignity of man and tolerance for his belief
and faith.
The universal heritage of the inherent oneness of all should receive due recognition and sober people should
should work to make the ideal a reality. It should figure prominently in any political agenda or in any social
and economic planning.
Pride and prejudice are the negation of humanism.
Love is a great mystery and a great necessity. It is mysterious universal and inevitable.
Love taken in a wide sense is the crowning grace of humanity.
Dr Zahurul Hassan Sharib
Sharib House, Jhalra, Ajmer.
Dec 1990.
Published on the Zahuri Sufi Website, October 8th 2003.
All copyrights reserved.
Start Loving
I greet you on the eve of the New Year. The year that is coming to an end had many ugly scars on its face. Let
us hope and pray that the new year will be free from such ugly burns and sores.
This is the last lecture of the year. Let us pray in all solemnity that the new year may bring in its wake
happiness and joy.
People want shelter. They want safety and security, which are the requisites of better living. Better living
depends to a great degree on moral and spiritual development.
So long as a person is burning himself in the fire which he has himself kindled, he cannot enjoy the bliss of
peace and tranquillity.
The fire of malice, envy, and hatred, once it engulfs a person, does not allow him to fulfill the legitimate
demands of better living.
Regionalism and casteism pose a threat to the harmonious working of society. Communalism and racism
divide mankind. Fanaticism is alien to toleration. It is the negation of social justice.
Let people come close to each other. Let there be mutual understanding and good will.
Everybody is capable of giving something to others. Let them then at least give a smile, signifying their
greetings and their good wishes.
Why should people hate instead of loving. The strife and differences between people professing different
religions and creeds, and belonging to different races and regions, land people in misery and abject living.
Hatred may be due to rancour or malice or both. Rancour and malice lead to hatred. Hatred, in some cases,
may be due to a superiority complex. It may also be due in some cases to jealousy and envy.
Grave social inequality leads to class struggle, resulting in hatred. Mutual strife and hatred may also be due
to poverty. It may also be due to lack of equal opportunities.
Sometimes communal and and caste differences are exploited leading to mutual hatred, violence, and riots.
Feudal attitudes and illiteracy divide people on a scale and in a way that makes people begin to hate,
resulting in the fragmentation of society.
Political parties pursue their own ideology, which may isolate and divide people. Sometimes their
ill-conceived policy leads to mutual strife and and mutual hatred.
Sometimes it so happens that a tense situation is not properly controlled. The unscrupulous manipulation of
the situation casts grave doubts on the sincerity of those dealing with the situation.
Fanaticism and orthodoxy survive as an age old division.
Casteism, communalism, racism and regionalism lead to disunity in diversity.
What is urgently required is that we revive and change our attitude towards the day to day problems
challenging our society. Unity is an imperative necessity for the survival, progress and prosperity for any
multi-religious, multiracial and multi-lingual country.
A judicious political management is called for. Social management to tackle the emerging problems is
required.
Compromise and conciliation are signs of mature wisdom and of mutual understanding, mutual trust, and
mutual good will.
Instead of hating, it is better to ignore the person who is the target of one's hate.
Do not punish yourself by being engaged in hating. Never speak of a person whom you don't like.
Hatred is meanness of heart.
Hatred is active dislike.
Envy is passive dislike.
Malice robs our mind of peace.
Hatred makes us uneasy.
Envy leads to hate.
Malice shouts and hatred shows signs of restlessness.
Hatred is a vice which afflicts narrow souls.
Hatred is a slow poison.
It is not the mark of a gentleman to hate anyone, whomsoever he may be. Vices must be disliked, but the
person should not be hated on that account. Instead of hating the person, the injustice should be disapproved
of.
Intolerance, cruelty, oppression, pride, vanity, the show of force, extravagance, ostentation, show, and vices
like drinking, gambling, and the use of intoxicating drugs should be condemned.
As opposed to hatred love is a cementing force. It unites people. The spirit of love should be cultivated. Love
like spiritual attainments should be developed. Love demands that we should pray for all irrespective of caste
affiliation, colour, community, race, region and religion.
Love is a fellowship - in prosperity and adversity. Love points out what is good beautiful and sublime.
In order to love try to understand the people. It is good to believe the best.
Human dignity demands due respect and veneration.
Instead of hating, we must try to understand people. We must pay due attention to the problems of people.
We must study their view point. We should try to know their background. We should try to find out whether a
person is under some pressure, or whether he is under fear and is afraid of expressing himself.
Let us also try to find out factors in the environment which may have moulded their outlook. The study of the
person's home background may reveal their past. Their parentage may disclose their family traditions, likes
and dislikes.
In order to love a person we should not judge them, but we should be sympathetic to that person, sharing his
joys and sorrows and trying to solve his problems and difficulties by giving him advice, suggestion and
spiritual, moral and financial help if need be.
Personal interest in the life of someone creates love. Helping a person to achieve what they want to achieve,
creates mutual love. A word of hope and encouragement sometimes serves as a ray of sunshine in the life of
that person. who is depressed and despondent.
As we need love, affection, and attention, likewise we should give love to others. We should not be self
centered, egoistic, and selfish, but altruistic, helping and loving.
People do not like to be criticised. Then why criticise them? Whatever you wish for yourself, give the same to
others. Give something to others if you can. Do not try to get but also try to give. If you get then give. if you
give then you get. There is a reciprocal law operating.
To make fun of people is to hurt their sentiments. It alienates people. A joke need not be enjoyed at the
expense of others.
To take a superior attitude is to assume superiority complex. It hinders the overflow of love.
Do not belittle the importance of others.
Sarcastic remarks lead to disunity.
Joking, laughing and making fun of people leads to confrontation instead of cooperation.
Negative criticism leads nowhere. Constructive criticism based on love yields positive results.
Sometimes it so happens that success in life without love makes a person lose the balance of their mind.
They become critical, arrogant and proud.
Love has inherent power. When a person comes to realise love in his heart, his whole life pattern is changed.
He is not the same man again. What is required is a personal revolution. Inner revolution changes a man to
the extent that nothing else can. There should be a complete revolution in our daily life, and in our approach to
life and its problems. Our worship, our prayer and our thanksgiving should evoke the sentiment of love.
Connotation should be replaced by devotion. Our devotion and our submission should make us self
disciplined.
Spiritual honesty is the need of the hour. An unceasing war should be declared on spiritual self deception.
Any semblance of unreality, confusion and frustration should be totally effaced and erased. Let us then
declare war on spiritual poverty.*
Let us avoid self deception. Let us shun self conceit. Let us make no compromise with arrogance.
If you do not like a man, do not hate him. Instead of hating him the best way is to have nothing to do with him.
If you cannot forgive then at least forget. Forget the injustice done to you. But remember the favour conferred
on you.
Man has a complex nature. he exhibits different moods at different times. He loves, he hates and he has his
own likes and dislikes.
Man is given reason but sometimes he is guided and led by impulse and emotions, resulting in ignoble
actions.
Love constitutes the greatest pleasure of life.
if you love someone purely, warmly, sincerely, and diligently and with all your heart then your love will expand
and you will begin to love all irrespective of their caste or colour.
What we love determines our life's parameters. We are thus shaped moulded and fashioned.
Why believe in love at first sight? Let us believe in taking a second look.
If you are in search of happiness, then live well and love all.
Love is gift and true love is a gift of abiding value.
Love does not argue. It gives in abundance. love is total abandonment. it is neither self possessed or prudent.
recently I had a very bad cough. I could not hide it from others. Likewise love cannot remain hidden. Love is
like a perfume. the smell of the perfume cannot be hidden. The same applies to the smell of love.
Love leads to the purification of the heart.
Hated makes the heart unrefined.
Love makes a person noble, daring and courageous.
love makes a distant object appear nearer and larger.
The technique of love is seeing through a telescope.
Hatred magnifies objects revealing details invisible to the naked eye. Its way of seeing is
through a microscope.
Envy looks through the eye glass.
The heart of one who has love within is a paradise on earth.
Let us rise above the petty squabbles, ignoble feuds, and quarrels. Let us take a wide view of the world at
large. Let us build brick by brick a society that is free from confrontation and hatred. Its guiding spirit is
humanism, altruism and empathy.
We cannot survive if we live to hate and disown love.
Regional forces, communal passions, and class and caste distinctions lead to social discontent, caused by
the lopsided development of personality.
In order to save the world from impending catastrophe, it is urgently required that people should rise above
invidious distinctions of caste, creed, and colour and work like a team to save and serve the depressed, the
despondent, and the down-trodden.
The issue of social justice should be taken up. An unequivocal stand should be taken for the good of all.
The love wave should serve as a channel or medium to start the process of uniting people, as has been done
by the mystics and Sufis. According to them bad thought is worse than bad action.
Some necessary institutional changes should be made in the structure of society:-
this calls for harmony, catholicity, righteousness, respect for the dignity of man and tolerance for his belief
and faith.
The universal heritage of the inherent oneness of all should receive due recognition and sober people should
should work to make the ideal a reality. It should figure prominently in any political agenda or in any social
and economic planning.
Pride and prejudice are the negation of humanism.
Love is a great mystery and a great necessity. It is mysterious universal and inevitable.
Love taken in a wide sense is the crowning grace of humanity.
Dr Zahurul Hassan Sharib
Sharib House, Jhalra, Ajmer.
Dec 1990.
Published on the Zahuri Sufi Website, October 8th 2003.
All copyrights reserved.
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